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By: This Mommy Gig » Blog Archive » Is It Okay for an 11-Year-Old to Be on Facebook?

Sat, 11 Oct 2008 01:17:16 +0000

[...] trending younger and younger. And it’s occasionally an awkward place to network – when I bump into Caroline’s almost 17-year-old brother there, I always politely turn aside like I didn’t [...]

By: Ann Handley

Ann Handley — Tue, 06 May 2008 14:15:13 +0000

Love this video… which nicely captures what I suggest here, but with far more humor:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=nrlSkU0TFLs

By: Social Networking spinning new webs « Soulseeking’s Weblog

Social Networking spinning new webs « Soulseeking’s Weblog — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 20:42:05 +0000

[...] request from a total stranger. I enjoyed a colorful account of this and other issues in In-Your-Facebook, where the writer shares both the heady and the creepy side of Facebooking. I hope I don’t [...]

By: Ann Handley

Ann Handley — Thu, 14 Feb 2008 17:14:33 +0000

Amy: Interesting story… I’m all for “community,” BTW, but Facebook definitely changes the rules for community, if you choose to go there. Like Steve, Yvonne and others here… I’ve been wondering about how much I want to open myself up, and how much I want to know about others, too.

Thanks for sharing that story!

By: Amy

Amy — Thu, 14 Feb 2008 13:30:20 +0000

I’ve been thinking about your blog and an interesting thing that happened to me. A work associate of mine has a 12-year old daughter who asked me to be her friend on Facebook. I have no idea why other than she’s 12 and trying to rack up as many friends as possible. So, I agreed and just kind of kept her in the background – not really paying attention to her. One day my “news feed” thing remarked that this girl had added her cell phone number. Suddenly I felt like this was very bad news. She’s asking me to be her friend, so I’m assuming she’s asking a lot of people she doesn’t know very well and now she’s posting her cell number. I felt obligated to get involved and tell my friend, her father. Now I’m getting involved in their family business and getting kids in trouble and so on and wondering if I overstepped my boundaries. Then I realized it’s no different than seeing your friend’s kid at a movie theater or somewhere involved in something way over her head. That “running into each other” are what communities are made of. And while it isn’t always the involvement we’re looking for, it the involvement community gives us. Research shows that community is very good for us. Makes us happier, healthier, live longer, etc. Will this bode true for the online community in the end? Who knows.

By: Amy

Amy — Thu, 14 Feb 2008 00:29:21 +0000

I have to say I love the status updates. When I need a break from work for just a minute I find it a great way to reboot my brain without getting overly involved in something I don’t have time for at the moment.

By: Tammy Allen

Tammy Allen — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 23:24:29 +0000

I don’t like facebook. It’s too gimmicky and difficult to navigate. I deleted my profile. I prefer myspace. I feel I made some real connections there and I will meet many of my “friends” in person someday. I’m sure of it. Plus, I made connections with people I haven’t seen in years. Perhaps it’s because I’m a musician. Facebook feels like fakebook to me.

By: Steve Woodruff

Steve Woodruff — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 13:50:21 +0000

I have to admit to mixed feelings as well about Facebook – I’ve got my toe in the water over there but – and maybe this is just a function of age – I have a hard time using the word “friend” so promiscuously. Or exposing too many personal details in the on-line fishbowl. Is it old-fashioned to believe that there is value in discretion??

By: Dusan

Dusan — Mon, 11 Feb 2008 20:05:10 +0000

And there come even more services to make us happy together:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/technology/7230686.stm

This post I love mostly, Ann.

By: Yvonne DiVita

Yvonne DiVita — Mon, 11 Feb 2008 15:36:42 +0000

Ann, I find it interesting and a little surprising that something of such a social nature can so quickly become obtrusive and bothersome.

I seldom visit Facebook anymore – and wonder how so many of my ‘friends’ have time to poke me or invite to participate in various things. While there is a measure of valuable content on Facebook, I resist it — relying, instead, on other social media tools…

In face, now I Twitter, instead. Something I never thought I’d do! I’m glad I have a Facebook account…but, it’s not as friendly as I’d hoped. So, it’s back to blogging…a social media tool that I can manage on my own terms.